I have no regrets with how my life turned out but I do wish someone told me certain things when I was younger.
You are going to embark on one of the biggest steps of your life, the transition from high school to college. The first year of college was the hardest for me. I was always trying to fit in. I never really knew what to do most of the time. Nobody told me. I don’t want the same things that happened to me to happen to you. You have a bright future ahead, I don’t want you to lose sight of it.
Let me try to shed some wisdom.
Make lots of friends but please join the crowd who studies. College is all about finding more about yourself without having the tight strings your parents have had on you for years. As much as you might be tempted to skip school to discover places and things you haven’t had tried or seen before, fight it. You’ll have the rest of your life for that. Right now what matters are your GRADES. Your grades will help you excel in life and put you in the best possible position. Stay away from people who don’t value education. You owe it to your parents who worked so hard for you to be able to study in a private university. You are there for one reason and that is to study, so study.
Have flings but don’t fall in love. You’ll be surrounded by boys throughout your whole stay in college. Don’t fall for the first boy you meet. Don’t be foolish. Boys are just distractions you don’t need at this time.
If you really want to fall in love, fall in love with yourself. Get to know yourself in ways you weren’t able to before. Find out what moves you! Figure out what your passions are. Don’t be afraid to do things just because the crowd says it’s not cool. Screw the crowd. Try a little of this and a little of that. It is only when you have tried something will you find out if you like it or not. Do things for YOU! You’ll never be as young and free as you are now.
Find balance. Don’t stress yourself out too much over school. But don’t be over confident and take it for granted. Relax a little, play a little. Have fun, work smart.
When all else fails, don’t worry. It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to have regrets. It won’t be the end of the world if you fall down, all that matters is you get back up stronger and wiser. Remember you have a wonderful support system. Your family will never leave you. They will always accept you.
The first step is always the hardest. I know you will do well in this new journey of yours. I wish you the best. And I wish this letter guides you in ways I wish it could have for me.