I haven’t probably told you, but I haven’t been in an intimate (boy/girl) relationship for long. It has only been three years since I have said yes to Mike. He is my first (and hopefully last) boyfriend. Everything that has been happening in that part of my life is new and exciting.
I guess that’s where the difficulty of writing about love is coming from. I, unintentionally, of course, have been limiting myself to that form of love. I have failed to realize that I have something deeper and better all along.
Which brings me to my family. I love them with all my heart. I wish I could spend every waking minute of my life making memories with them and making them happy. I wish I knew the value that they have in my life so I wouldn’t have to go through the I-HATE-YOU-PEOPLE stage. My family is love, albeit sometimes dysfunctional.
It is through them that I have come to understand the real meaning of love and how relationships should be for it to work. Don’t get me wrong, my family has its own secrets but if you look at things from a different (and positive) perspective, no matter the situation, you’ll always find something to learn.
For example, there was this time that my father and mother always fought and was on the brink of separating. I learned that people in relationships must always be willing to compromise and communicate for it to work. The world isn’t full of flowers and sunshine but if you decide to love, you must be willing to work things out. I know I’m lucky and some might not even have complete families, to begin with, but as I was saying, it’s all about perspective. For example, the fact that my sister is a big pain in the ass. I learned that even if you hate another person so much, you can’t let evil and negativity win. You have to learn to forgive and forget. We should always be willing to give another person a second chance because if we won’t, imagine what kind of world we will live in.
If there is a message I truly want to share, it is to love your family. They are the people who hone who you will become in the future. Take your time to get to know them and love them. Sometimes we spend so much time trying to break free from our family during our youth that we fail to realize that while we’re too busy growing up, our parents/ grandparents/ aunts/ uncles are busy growing old.
So if there’s one kind of love I’d want everyone to focus on, it is the kind centered and focused on your families. Remember that they are there for you through thick and thin. Remember that they will never give up on you. Remember that you don’t want to have any regrets in life, so live life like it’s your last. Hug your parents. Forgive your brother or sister. Take care of your grandparents. Be an example to the younger children in your family. Love them.