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Music Mondays 2017

I once had a weekly challenge called Music Mondays. I used to post music I loved and asked my fellow bloggers to do the same. I did that for 52 weeks. Now that a new year is upon us, I am feeling troubled because I am torn as to whether or not I should continue this challenge.

I had a few ideas: set up themes, answer questions using songs, using music to give advice etc. but it all felt a little forced. So here I am, on the first Monday of January, still undecided on what I want to do for my weekly challenge.

For today I decide to spice it up by sharing some thoughts about the Ariana Grande-young fan encounter. I got acquainted with the topic because of Joe Gatto’s tweet shown below.

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After a quick search of the Twitter-verse, I find the following tweets from Ariana herself.

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It got me thinking about feminism, sexism, sexuality and gender inequality. Here’s my two cents on it.

Ariana’s words and actions confuse me. Most of the songs she is currently singing is about sex but at the same time, she doesn’t want to be objectified as a sexual object. It’s two complete opposites. It seems as if she’s not practicing what she’s preaching. Am I supposed to think that her choice for lyrics are completely different from what her views are? I am a firm believer that most of the things that happen to us are a result of our actions. If we want something, we must do everything in our hands to achieve it. Just like are actions also help form the actions of others.

I guess all I’m saying is, true, Ariana is not asking to be disrespected or objectified in any way BUT her actions do not help others perceive her in a certain way. It also doesn’t help her case that she allowed the line “dick bicycles” to be in her hit song or she is singing about walking side to side. 😉

We are all free to do whatever we like. However, with this freedom comes responsibilities. We should be responsible enough to present ourselves in a way that other people would also want to respect us. It is true that for us women this would certainly limit us but that’s the world we live in now. I’m not saying we should let things be, but rather this should challenge us to change things for the better but still accept the fact that the world won’t always be on our side.

Any thoughts? I’d love to hear your reactions to my views. This is a tricky topic and I’ll only reply to positive and constructive comments. 🙂

16 Comments

  1. masyadong maselan ang topic na ito ha ha…pero alam mo si Ariana Grande…masyadong ‘sexy’ and mga videos nya…parang kahit hindi mo intindihin yung lyrics…yung mga sayaw lang at actions dun sa video eh mahalay ang dating…kaya nakakalito nga sya

    • Sobrang tricky nung topic diba! Sympre baka image niya lang din niya yun….pero kasi if ganon pinapakita mo, paano iisipin ng ibang tao na hindi ka ganon? Kaloka si ate.

      Or baka matanda na ako masyado kaya di ko na keri ang ganyang galawan hahahaha! 🙂

  2. Hi! Glad you posted about this.

    The thing is, a lot of people don’t seem to know the difference between a person enjoying their own sexuality versus being sexuality objectified. If an adult woman – or even man, feeling sexy isn’t limited to one gender! – enjoys feeling sexy and looking good, and dressing in revealing clothes, singing sexy lyrics, and dancing sexy, that’s their prerogative. And the fact that this person feels good doing these things does not give anyone else the right to look at them as a sex object, which is what sexual objectification is. The difference is in who does the “objectifying”. If I wear short shorts because I think I look good in short shorts, that doesn’t give people the right to come up to me and tell my ass is nice. Certainly they can think that my ass is nice, or comment so in private conversations to their friends. After all, we can’t control what people do in private. But what they cannot do is actively act on that thought, such as telling me that my ass is nice or even coming up to me and touching my butt.

    “We should be responsible enough to present ourselves in a way that other people would also want to respect us.”

    With all due respect, I highly disagree with this. When you speak of respecting a stranger on the street, you’re probably thinking of things like refraining from making lewd comments or attempting to touch sensitive areas. Whether or not a person is wearing highly modest clothes or the most revealing attire imaginable, that person doesn’t deserve to hear lewd comments or have these areas touched.

    My boyfriend once made a comment about this that I have never forgotten. He said, “Naka pekpek shorts o sweater at jeans ang isang babae, hinding hindi ako titingin sa boobs niya, at hindi papasok sa isip ko yung mga malaswang comment, at hindi ko iisipin na pwedeng hawakan o hipuan.”

    “If we want something, we must do everything in our hands to achieve it.”

    Again, I respectfully disagree. When it comes to being treated like a basic human being – not being subject to rude comments, and other such lewd behavior – there is nothing that anyone needs to do to deserve and achieve that. All you need to be is human. If you were a woman walking down the street in a tiny skirt and bra, I would not make disgusting comments about you, and I would not try to peep, and I would not try to touch. You deserve that kind of respect – EVERY woman, EVERY person – deserves that kind of respect, simply because they are a person. There is no other reason.

    Thanks for opening this discussion!

    • Hi Kate! Thank you for your comment, I am very happy that you shared your thoughts about this topic even if they are different from mine! 🙂

      There is a thin line between enjoying one’s sexuality and another person sexually objectifying you. It’s a very thin line and honestly, it’s a line that is always crossed. A perfect example is in the case of Ariana and the fan. Ariana enjoys her sexuality. She expresses this through her music. The fan sees that she enjoys it and decides to act on it. Should you blame Ariana for the fan’s actions? Or should you blame the fan? It’s a thin line but I think both of them are to blame: Ariana for not being responsible and not realizing the consequences of her choice of music and the fan thinking that it’s okay to see her as a sexual object.

      Think in the lines of…I enjoy food. It’s okay for people to call me a foodie. Heck you can even call me fat! After all, I got fat because I like eating food. That’s where I’m coming from when I said what I said. Diba nga, actions speak louder than words.

      With everything else you said, I have a story to tell. I was going to work this afternoon and as I was crossing the street, a car drove by and someone from inside shouted “ang laki ng suso mo.” I’m wearing decent clothes. Not even an inch of my boobs were showing.

      I don’t understand why someone would shout something like that to me even if I was covered up. 🙁 I do not understand why someone would do that to me. I didn’t give them the right to do so. I deserve respect but why wasn’t it given to me?

      There are millions of people in the world, not everyone will be as kind as you or your boyfriend. We might think we deserve something but others might not think the same way. That’s where the problem starts. That’s why I want to make sure I control what I can. If we want something, we must do everything we can to achieve it. So at the end of the day, I can say that I did everything I can. Certain things will happen or will not happen, but it won’t be because of me.

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  4. Sorry, but I beg to differ. I’m calling BS on this one.

    Let’s face it – sex sells. Appealing to the base instincts of people, whether subliminally or in-your-face, is among the many ways marketers use to make products fly off grocery shelves. In this case, Grande’s use of sexual overtones (weaved in the song lyrics, seen in promotional videos for her songs) to promote her records is an effective method. It figuratively makes her singles sell like hotcakes – from the iTunes Store to Spotify.

    And this article sums up my thoughts on the issue: http://www.returnofkings.com/66126/ariana-grande-sexualizes-her-entire-image-for-years-then-demands-people-focus-on-the-music.

    I rest my case.

    • It’s funny that this article was written last June 2015 but every part of it still holds true.

      It’s all BS. It’s probably another ploy to stay relevant.

      I blame the media with how the world is currently. It’s all for money. 🙁

  5. just like you I am confused. I think when one thinks of the words of most of her songs, I think it makes one think of her in a certain way. I think it can make one want to apply her words…it is confusing

    • It is confusing. It looks like this has been a standing issue with her. She wants people to listen to her music but still she offers more than just her music (her body/looks).

  6. Hi, Kat! Ah, this is a highly sensitive issue that sparked countless debates haha. It’s hard to make a stand without offending somebody, but I’ll take a stab at it. 😉

    I agree that freedom has responsibilities, but this responsibility should work BOTH WAYS. I have the responsibility to use my freedom to dress however i want in a way that will not incite the disrespect of others, even if i know that they have ABSOLUTELY NO RIGHT to disrespect me. Likewise, others have to be responsible enough to NOT CROSS THE LINE. Unfortunately, this concept of dual responsibility is gone in today’s messed-up society, which is why one camp thinks that they’re not responsible for anyone’s reaction about their image, while the other camp thinks that they’re not responsible if they act based on the image someone is portraying to them. 🙁

    • I agree with everything you said. Society now is just messed up. I don’t even know where to begin!

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