Let me tell you a story about the time I unfriended someone on Facebook and he found out.
I knew this guy since I was in high school. Back then we weren’t really close. We were acquaintances. He was best friends with my closest girl friend.
We went to the same college and somehow, by some twisted fate, we became best friends. I didn’t really consider him my best friend but I let him call me as his. I didn’t really care. We lived in the same village which made my daily commute a lot better since I had a guy with me.
I was a scared little girl and I didn’t like commuting alone.
During our commutes, oddly enough, he sometimes held my hand. Until now, I honestly don’t know why he did that. Maybe he was making a move on me? I highly doubted that since he liked this common friend of ours. I don’t even know why I’m including that detail in this post but it’s a fun detail to include, lol.
Anyway, he now lives and works in Singapore. He sometimes comes home and we’d meet up. It’s never that often and I always go to our meet-ups not because I wanted to but because I felt I had to.
He was a close friend back then. Someone I’d consider sharing my personal secrets and stories with but that was back then. Now, eleven years after I first entered college, he is nothing but a mere memory. We don’t chat that often. He doesn’t know the newest and juiciest detail in my life. I don’t know any details about him too.
I am a different person now. I am more selective of my friends. I only reach out to people who I feel want to have a relationship with me too. I don’t like wasting time.
When I unfriended him, I knew that he was a different person too. He had a different life abroad and I was here living my own life. I unfriended him because of the fact that we had grown apart and that we weren’t going to get closer anymore.
Last Christmas, he asked me why I unfriended him. I told him that I did so because I’m into minimalism and I read that we have too many friends on Facebook but they’re with people who you don’t even know. They’re just your friends online but if you see them in person, you can’t even talk to them.
Our conversation was getting awkward and I ended up adding him as a friend again.
He has yet to accept my friend request.
TL;DR: I unfriended a previously close friend on Facebook, he found out, I sent him a friend request, he has yet to accept it.
The lesson of this story: I don’t regret unfriending him. We obviously grew apart. When I stated the obvious, we were put in a situation where we could rekindle our friendship or grow apart further. He has chosen the latter. It is true, I could try a little harder to try and be friends again but I’d rather not. I like to keep my world simple and fuss free.
Don’t be afraid to unfriend people thinking they might find out. Unfriend people so you can focus more on the people who really matter in your life. Keep your friends list simple yet personal.