I don’t exactly know when it started but I just fell out of love with social media. I started looking at myself and hated that I was always on my phone scrolling through endless posts on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. I couldn’t put my phone down. I had to like that post.
Falling out of love didn’t happen intentionally. It made its way slowly. It made sure it wasn’t a phase I was going to get over so easily. I was scrolling through Facebook and was up to date with a friend’s life. I liked that she was living her life and I was genuinely happy for her. I saw her once. Our eyes met but she didn’t even say hi. I legitimately got sad. I didn’t know how she could not acknowledge me when I know everything about her.
A turning point.
This was when I started reading more into minimalism, mindfulness, and positivity. It opened my mind to a lot of ideas. Most of it is centered on the idea that you only have one life. It’s better to make it count – spend it with the people you love, put down your phone, and reconnect with nature. I started to reevaluate my life and was shocked with what I saw.
I saw someone who was capable of living her life to the fullest but is stuck on social media. I started to declutter my life. I simplified my Facebook friends list. I removed the Facebook app on my phone. I deleted my Instagram and Twitter accounts.
The first few weeks were liberating. It was exhilarating having all this time and telling your friends you don’t have social media. They gasp in awe then return to their phones. They talk behind your back and slowly forget you because you’re not in the in crowd. You’re there but never really there.
I went back on Facebook Messenger, Twitter, and Instagram. I felt like I had to have my social life. The happiness it provided the new me didn’t last long, though. Everything felt superficial. I ended up deleting my Instagram account and Facebook app while I only used my Twitter for my blog. It was the compromise I made. Somehow it satiated my need for social media but filtered the rest of the clutter.
Truth is, another reason why I fell out of love for social media because of people. Social media can be the most beautiful thing in the world but it can also be the worst.
In today’s world, it’s all about aesthetics. You have to keep up with what’s new. You have to know and consume. You have to be the center of attention. I didn’t like that. It didn’t align with my principles.There was always drama, fights, issues, and inconveniences that are times so petty you’d wonder why they even care. Those kinds of things don’t have space in my life.
That’s why I took a step back and started doing things my way.
I didn’t need other people’s affirmation. I didn’t need to be recognized. My Twitter and blog are reflections of who I really am without the worry of having to be liked and accepted by the in crowd.
I looked at things and social media for what they truly are – spur of the moment. The current trend. There’s a much bigger trend I would like to ride and that’s the waves of kindness, simplicity, and open-mindedness.
I don’t like to keep up with the trend. I make it. I hope you do too.